What is a relationship, really?
by Jean & Jasmine
“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
For some a relationship is used as an attempt to fulfill unmet needs and expectations through another person. Perhaps to have someone to take care of us, protect us, make us feel as though we have a purpose in life, fill the void that feeling alone or being alone often brings.
This someone could come in the form of a spouse, child, friend, parent, colleague, pet, cause or thing. Most people think of relationships as an intimate coupling with a partner or spouse. The truth is we have a relationship with every person, place or thing we come into contact with including ourselves. That latter one — ourselves — is the key to every single relationship.
Pretty basic really — the relationship we have with ourselves. It colours, shapes and guides every single interaction in our lives. Our self talk, our beliefs, our rules, our expectations , our cultural conditioning all form the underpinnings of our experience of life.
Just for a moment, stop and take the time to really look at all of the relationships in your life. What do they bring out in you? Love? Joy? Anger? Fear? Resentment? Jealousy? Or a combination of them all? What about the relationship with your self? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? And most importantly, what do you feel?
What about the relationship with where you live? When you walk in the door do you have a sense of comfort, warmth, and loving calm, or do you look around and see all the things that need to be done. Is it pristinely welcoming or a reflection of chaos and turmoil?
Has your sex life lost its luster? Are all the various dreams, hopes and aspirations for you (had?) sitting on the back burner, resentfully reminding you that this is not how you thought your life would be? How about your health, how’s that working for you?
Whatever it is for you, know for sure “the outer is a reflection of the inner”! Where ever we go there we are — we take ourselves to work, we take ourselves home, we take ourselves to friends, on a date, to the grocery store. Do you move through these experiences filled with joy, fun, laughter and love or do you feel duty bound, responsibility driven, bitter, resentful and fatigued from the sheer weight of it all.
How often do you play the blame game in your life and in your relationships? Do you find yourself blaming others for the state of your life? “He /She/They did this,” “How angry ‘they’ make you”, “ If only they would do this or that then I would feel respected and supported”, “If only they would help out then the responsibility wouldn’t all be on my shoulders”, “If only they would hear me”, “If only they would make me feel loved, sexy, respected, honored and important” — if only, if only, if only. . . .
How often do you find yourself judging others silently (or out loud): “They aren’t eating right”, “They’re drinking too much”, “shouldn’t behave that way”, “should be more respectful of me”, “are too fat”, “too thin”, “too loud. . . .”
How often do you judge yourself: “I should have said or done this or that”, “I should look this way or that way”, “They’re all so much better than me — smarter, healthier, wealthier!”
Your thoughts, your beliefs about how the world works, your emotions, your health are all reflections of the state of the relationship you have with yourself! The most important relationship we can cultivate is the one we have with ourselves. It is the relationship that needs to be healed first and foremost if we truly desire to relate with anyone or anything else from a clear, open, genuine, authentic and loving place.
It is possible to take back your life, to heal yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually, to live the life of your dreams, to wake up every morning with a smile on your face enthusiastically greeting the day. And it all starts within you!
Contrary perhaps to popular belief, you can have a relationship with yourself and others that is rooted in pure and unconditional love. A love without hurt, judgment, blame, mistrust, disloyalty, jealousy, betrayal. A communion of your own heart and soul that will radiate and create vibrant, loving, fulfilling relationships with everything and everyone in your world!
You can live from a place of truth, vibrant health, honesty, acceptance, trust and full open exposure and vulnerability, and love it!
Join Jean and Jasmine in an upcoming Relationship Workshop on how to create loving, supportive, open, honest relationships, starting from the inside out! Details to follow in upcoming posts.
Why might you want to do this workshop? Because it feels good, it heals and regenerates your body, it’s easy, supportive, loving, peaceful, harmonious, balanced, honoring, trusting and open. It breathes great and vibrant life into your life!
Remember, YOU ARE NOT BROKEN! You have simply forgotten the truth of who you really are, your authentic self, your birthright. Let us help you rediscover and remember. “To thine own self be true”!
Jean & Jasmine offer fully customized workshops based on varying topics for all people of all ages. Our private healing/coaching sessions incorporate the teachings and application of Cellular Healing, Mind Body Healing, NLP, Energy Medicine, Shamanism, Law of Attraction.
To inquire about or schedule a workshop or book one-on-one sessions with Jean and /or Jasmine please contact :
Jean @ 1.613.591.9888 OR Jasmine @ 1.705.549.5962
jeanbrazeau@sympatico.ca OR jasmine@transpowerment.com
